So Written

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Social Media isn’t social?!

The other day I was having a conversation with a couple of women about internet, boards, twitter, Facebook and other forms of social media. What kind of influence they have on our lives. All of a sudden someone made a statement.

 “Social media is not social.”

It got me thinking. I am a person who relies on social media quite a bit. I blog, I tweet, I use WhatsApp, I visit boards and I have even met (new) friends through the internet. Next to that I do rely on internet for my online store. I use Twitter to make myself known, to announce special offers and to keep (future) customers’ attention.

So at first I had to disagree with her. And trust me I did, but I also kept it down as I was not looking to pick a fight. But when I shut my MacBook yesterday evening because I was done staring at the screen and wanted to do something fun (read; not work related) I realised how much the 2.0 world has infiltrated my life.

Personally I share my life through Twitter, this blog and on some boards. It allows me to have a platform for sharing my writing, recipes and I can rant and vent whenever I feel the need to do so. I don’t mind. I like it that way, it’s quite anonymous. Can you imagine me calling my Mother In Law to vent about her son’s behaviour? Telling my mom how I really feel about her? Or yelling at the neighbours, because I feel their neighbourly ways s*ck? I’d have many enemies and not so many friends.

Through Twitter and a couple of boards I have learned things I never could have imagined to learn and I have met people that are very dear to me who I would have never met otherwise. The trick is to balance. Socialise through internet and go to a bar for a drink with friends. The best of both worlds. It’s not that hard.

It works for me, because I can discuss things with my GMT+1 friends that I can’t discuss with my 2.0 friends and vice versa. I learn about different countries from my Twitter friends, I get sucked into local activities by my Real Life friends. But most importantly; I learn and my, already very wide, world has broadened even more.

Social media is not social in traditional ways, but I do think it does have a huge social function. It enables us to learn new things, to meet people all over to world and to learn about other cultures. Which, in modern times where misunderstanding and hatred are playing a huge roll, I think is very important.

With the worldwide misunderstandings about almost everything I believe that learning about each other’s habits, cultures and lives is a treasure. Social media, whether it’s a (fan)board, Twitter, Facebook or any other form allows us to come closer together.

So yes, if you technically look at it Social Media is not social. At all. It doesn’t even come close to sharing a drink with a group of friends in a bar. Although, in all honesty, I have been to some pretty awesome online parties. Just imagine a bunch of people from all over the world ‘getting together’ watching an episodes of their favourite show and sharing their thoughts (and squeals) over Twitter. Yes, drinks were involved.

I might not worry about the addictive nature of all this as much as some would, because I believe that I can keep it under control. But on the other hand, it can’t hurt to take a break once in a while and keep a little distance.

So, Social Media? I think it’s pretty social actually. And yes, I do have a social life outside of the 2.0 realm. My MacBook needs a break once in a while.

*SoWritten

PS) And don’t you just love Google? I just adore how it allows me to find whatever information I want in very little time.

Song-Fic: ‘Standing on the outside’

A/N; Welcome to my first ever song fic. Boy did I underestimate writing one. I struggled, but had loads of fun. Writing this has been a very welcoming break from NaNoWriMo! While I was working on my NaNoWriMo story I was listening to some music by the wonderful Leo Kottke. Lost for words, I heard the lyrics to the song “Standing on the outside” properly for the first time. The first thing that came to mind was; Sam & Andy or Dov & Gail. So I decided to go a little tricky on this one. Writing both from Sam’s point of view and Dov’s point of view. I’m not really able to pinpoint an exact timeframe for this fiction, but it is somewhere in the time where Andy is still with Luke and Gail is with Chris.

It was a real challenge writing this story with 2 POV’s. But I needed a break from my NaNoWriMo, so I decided to just go for it. Let me know what you think of it.

Just a small guide to reading this story, as I will be switching POV’s on the run as I want both stories to merge and not having to write two different stories.

BOLD = Lyrics

Italic = Epstein

Regular = Swarek

***Sorry, no graphics today***

Disclaimer; I do not own Rookie Blue, neither do I own the beautiful “Standing on the outside” by Leo Kottke (Who is a great musician I must say.)


Just my luck to be assigned to the champion of permanent, senseless yapping. Even though McNally’s continuing babbling occasionally gets on my nerves, at least she knows when to shut up. Like now would be a good time for Epstein to shut up. The Tylenol and coffee I’ve taken to fight off the hangover this morning already wearing off. The process was probably quickened thanks to the continuous talk filling the squad car. There was only one way to shut this Rookie up I thought, as I turned up the volume of the radio. The lyrics of the song playing on it hit home in a hard way.

I wonder what’s got Swarek all worked up today. He usually isn’t that talkative, but this is just ridiculous! He hasn’t said a word yet and has only been scowling at me. The bags under his eyes might be the result of a poker night yesterday. Come to think, both Barber and Shaw looked quite similar to Swarek this morning. I’ll just keep on talking; he has to answer me at some point. He will have to talk to me eventually, if only just to bark out orders. What is he doing? Now this is just rude! Is he turning up the volume on the radio in the middle of my story about Gail beating me in a computer game? It’s a really funny story… Oh wow, this song… It’s just… Wow…

I’ve been on the outside loving you
Seen from far away
Every day that I live for you
All that I do or say

That’s just it, am I really on the outside? Every time I think I am entering, she shuts me out. So I think I am on the outside, yeah I’m definitely on the outside. And love? Do I really love her? Me, Sam Swarek? In love? With a doe eyed rookie? Well, she does make my heart beat faster and I do look forward to seeing her each day. But that’s not love right? I mean, it’s not like I can’t imagine life without her. Right?

Oh God, I can’t. I can’t imagine life without McNally in it. But her being with that douche Callaghan, it’s just painful. I thought he would have screwed up by now, but he amazes me. He is keeping tight grips on McNally isn’t he? All I can do is keep my distance, stand by and wait till he screws up. Because he will eventually. I’m sure. At least, it’s what I keep trying to convince myself to believe.

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